Listening is not a passive skill, it requires active thought and responses. When we listen to someone talking to us we are involved in the communication and it is important that we signal to the speaker that we are listening and that we have understood what is being said. Equally if we are not sure of the meaning of what is being said, we need to show that this is the case. By doing so, the speaker is able to continue appropriately and get the message across effectively.
This activity looks at what we do and what we say when we listen actively.
Match the following categories with the correct definition.

signals                        echo response             questioning                 action points

1.01

 

asking for more information

1.02

 

stating that you will do something or you expect something to be done

1.03

 

short expressions or sounds that indicate you are listening and understand

1.04

 

repeating key words or ideas to show you are listening and thinking about the message

Now group the expressions with the correct categories.

Signals

Echo/response

Questions

Action points

I see

 

 

 

 

 

So, the boxes weigh 10 kg each

 

 

I see         so you will be sending it tomorrow        OK       How heavy did you say they were?   

              It’ll cost £65                When can you send them?                 I’ll ring you when they arrive    

How much will that cost           right                I understand                So, the boxes weigh 10 kg each

If they don’t arrive by 10am I’ll call to find out where they are               Uh huh, yes

Now add two more examples to each column.
The box below contains thoughts or ideas that we might have while we are listening. Which of these do you think will make communication more effective () and which will make communication more difficult ()

2.01

 

/interpret the meeting/             /know the answer already/                   /evaluate the message /       /think about lunch/              /look away/                /hear/              /observe/          / listen/           
/must go to a meeting/          /respond appropriately/              /question if I don’t understand/
/interrupt without thinking/ x                /anticipate/                  /evaluate their haircut/             /assume/

You are probably aware that you listen in different ways in different situations. Look at the list of common listening styles and match the definitions to the appropriate style.

2.02

basic

you listen for a specific sound

2.03

active

 

2.04

therapeutic

 

2.05

critical

 

2.06

defensive

 

2.07

social

 

you listen to help others with a problem or worry

you listen to share ideas, interact with others and feel good

you listen hard to catch all the message to recall it later

you listen for a specific sound

you listen to some kind of criticism

you evaluate the message to make a decision

Complete the dialogue about paraphrasing using the comments in the box below.

A

 

B

 

This task is about paraphrasing and also echoing.

 

 

[3.01]   About paraphrasing?

Yes, paraphrasing – it’s a bit like re-phrasing.

 

 

[3.02]

That’s right. Using different words to summarise and clarify the meaning for the listener. It’s really useful to confirm you have understood the right message.

 

 

[3.03]

Yes, echoing. Echoing is when you the listener repeat key words to show you are listening and thinking. It’s also good for helping you to remember details.

 

 

[3.04]

Paraphrase and echo questions are also useful to help build a conversation.

 

 

[3.05]   You mean they can help you generate fluency?

Yes, I like them because they allow the person listening to input some energy and interest into the conversation.

 

 

[3.06]

Great, isn’t it?

 

You mean like “putting it in your own words”?              Help me remember details. I see.                  

You also mentioned echoing.   You mean they can help you generate fluency?
You’re right! Energy and interest are really important.              About paraphrasing?

Now complete this short dialogue with an appropriate paraphrase or echo question of your own.

A

 

B

 

This meeting next week will be about our proposal.

 

 

[3.01]   Our proposal?

Yes, our proposal – apparently it’s caused some concern.

 

 

[3.02]  

That’s right. I’ve heard they’re thinking of giving the account to someone else.

 

 

[3.03]  

Yes, unless we act fast. I think we should work on a new proposal very quickly. In the meantime, we need play for time.

 

 

[3.04]  

So let’s get together to develop a new proposal that will win them over. We need to be a little more creative.

 

 

[3.05]  

Questions take on many forms. This activity looks at the different types of questions we might use when listening. Read the text and match the question type with the correct section
Leading questions
Echo questions
Closed questions
Timing
Paraphrase questions
Open questions
Probing Questions

4.01

Open questions

 

These questions are useful when you want to get more information, or if you want to get silent or shy people to talk more. They begin with:

What?            When?                       Who?             Where?          Why?              How?

People who are asked open questions have to talk and this can be useful to initiate a discussion and to gain more information from which further questions can be generated. It enables them to express their feelings. For example: 'What do you expect the end users to focus on when they visit this site?'  When effective questioning is used, whether at work or on social occasions, people invariably offer more information than is actually asked.

4.02

 

 

can help you get to the point and ask for specific answers. They can be answered by a simple 'yes' and 'no'. They are useful when you are dealing with a caller who is longwinded or vague. They are also useful for checking details in the closing minutes of a conversation. They begin with:

Do?                Can?              Did?               Will?

It is important to avoid asking an open question followed by a closed question; this confuses people and they tend to answer only the closed question e.g. 'Why haven't you finished the report?’. Is it because you have too much work?'

4.03

 

 

are usually used when you have a vague or long-winded caller to help you get to the key point quickly.  Usually you would ask open questions first, and then follow them with probing questions to get more specific information.  Probing questions would start with the following:

What exactly ....?      Why....?          Could you tell me more about ...?

4.04

 

 

are used to check that you have understood someone correctly. Usually they are formed by quoting the last few words of the speaker but with question intonation.  For example, if someone phoning a hotel says, ‘I'd like a double room from 19th to 23rd June'  the echo question might be, ‘A double room, sir?' They are very effective and also reassure the speaker that you have taken down the details correctly.

4.05

 

 

These questions are also a method of checking understanding.  Rather than using the exact words the speaker has said, you put their words into your own words and phrase a question.  So, if a hotel guest complains saying, 'I'm afraid the AC in my room has stopped working effectively and I don't know how to fix it,' then you would say, 'So you mean to say the AC isn't working properly, or has it stopped completely?’ You are then absolutely sure of the details.

4.06

 

 

These questions imply an answer contained within the question itself. For example, the question: ‘I'm sure that you've often backed out of asking a question and later regretted it, haven't you’ is a leading question. What does the speaker think the answer will be? This means the client is not free to give the answer they may have chosen. Other examples: 'Do you think this functionality is the best?' 'Do you prefer the first one?'

4.07

Timing

 

This is very important. Questions asked at the wrong time may not allow the client room for thought, or may distract them from their train of thought.

 

Unscramble the words to make complete questions. Then match each answer with the correct question type.

5.01

anyone Has ever given presentation here a?

open question

 

Has anyone here ever given a presentation?

5.02

So, you what do office of think our new?

 

 

 

5.03

exactly do unrealistic you What by mean?

 

 

 

5.04

, don’t you necessary do see that You the new is system?

 

 

 

5.05

like a connection new You’d internet?

 

 

 

 
In this lesson you have:
explored the concept of listening as an active concept not a passive skill.
analysed different strategies for listening actively
reviewed a variety of question forms used in active listening
 
The next e-m@il lesson looks at the issues around leading a virtual team, a team whose members are in different geographical locations.